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Valerievna
05-19-2008, 12:30 PM
When i was younger my father died and so my mom remarried to a really cool dude (he always bought my brother and myself ice cream... how sweet was that i thought when i was 3)

So about the time i was 3 1/2 years old my step dad and my real mom got into a fight and it ended my step fathers life... so theres my two fathers dead. And my mom turned to Drugs and Alcohol (no cool!!) and started to abuse me by burning me with her smokes and other things.

When i was 5 years old someone around the appartment called the police for child abuse leaving myself and my brother to go into an orphanage (we went to two different ones because of our age difference).

When i was there the older lady used to beat me with her cane and i would have to stay up late to do extra chores. I thought i would be scared for life and not able to forgive and forget these people for reuining my entire child life.

But then i got adopted and my family now is just so loving and caring and when i was 8 i asked jesus to come into my life and i got saved. BUT by the time i was 13 i turned and i started to get into drinking, parties and drugs (not the best choices of my life). The reason i got into all of this is becuase i just started high school and i wanted to fit into it soo much i joined soo many sports teams ( all of them actually) Ultimate, soccer,m hockey, basketball, tennis, flag football... the list goes on.. i also joined clubs such as the student council and the student support team... but at this time i was soo focused on fitting in that i just forgot about how much God loved me and i really never forgave my mother for the stuff she put me through during my younger childhood that i started to rebel against my mother now and just like i said get into other things. Also at this time my real brother was and still is in and out of jail.

Right now he's in jail for the next year; i am now 16 and i guess about mid march during march break my dad was listening to the Song Give me Jesus by jeremy camp and it just made me weep and i surrendered my life and just being getting right into the word of God and its just been such a great experience and i have really been asking god for guidence in everything i do and just to help mend my heart from the hurt caused by my brother and mother. I have now forgave my mother for what she did to me in my younger life and i forgave my brother and i even told him that when i talked to him last. i said, "yo Alexander you know during the past few years you just broke my heart and with how you acted and treated myself and other people it really reminded me of mom and it really wasnt cool cus i started to follow into yours and her foot steps but then my eyes opened up and god just entered my heart and just healed me from all this hurt and i just have to say that i forgive you for the hurt you caused in my life." and if i had the chance to see my real mother i would say i forgive her aswell... but it would be harder for me to say those words to her cause even though im 16 i still cannot "play fight" with my family and friends because right when im down on the ground and theyre laying on top of me pinning me down for the 10 count i FREAK cause thats what my mother did. There is other things that happen aswell (such as... when i close my eyes at night i just remember those nights i was pinned down screaming for someone to help me... and nothing... no one helped and right when i close my eyes and see and hear this i stay awake listening to my music (jeremy camp, third day, bless the fall etc but i just try to surround myself in christian music and the bible because i know thats when i am the weakest and thats when the devil will try to strike). Thanks for reading hope you enjoyed!

LauraA
05-19-2008, 01:39 PM
I am absolutely speechless and heartbroken that you went through all this. I praise God that you have enough wisdom and fortitude to forgive those who hurt you. Forgiveness is a key to freedom. You stay close to Jesus. He is THE way, THE truth and THE life. (John 14:6) He will never fail you.

Big Hugs~
Laura

Bubelaiken
05-19-2008, 06:56 PM
Hey i know how you feel because i also been through abusive situation except the social didn't help at all!! they help but they don't make my voice heard!!!
my mom abuse me when i was 12 year old. the abuse situation stopped until 15 year old.

I have emontial issue, anger issue.
that why i was 12 year old i did bad things because of that.
anyway My mom was diangotic of depression that why she got mad easily and abuse me My step father was abusive toward my mom and my mom learn the abuse.

she gave the abuse to me
buut noow!!!
my mom has changed. she believe in god!! she stopped being abusive!!
and i am now christian and i am no longer have emontial issue and anger issue from the physical abuse.

Valerievna
06-11-2008, 05:41 PM
one thing i found out later in life actually in the past few months is that you go through these trials and sometimes errors just so you rely on god more and during those times when you are down is when you should rely on God even more then before becuase thats when the devil is trying to get you the most... like he tries all the time but those times are more effective to work for the Devil.


God bless guys!

im posting some pics on myspace/facebook from the mountains trip i just got back from and it was just soo amazing to see how God used his hands and made every inch of those mountains!

JC#1Nashvillefan
06-12-2008, 12:53 AM
Amen
Just stay close to Jesus
He loves you more than you will ever know

jayson
06-13-2008, 10:36 AM
hey Valeri thanks for sharing your sweet story... it seems as if we had almost the same type of childhood sorta. How did you over come forgiving your parents for the burdens?

I just recently started to talk to my mother in a proper way and just relaxing to some of the things said in our conversations

krazyyouth
06-13-2008, 09:08 PM
hey im sorry you had to go thourgh that ut im glad that your on the right track now, and yes jerermys music has a way by speaking to us