its over

[chatterbox4christ]

hey guys its over. my marriage is over. before this week is up im leaving with my two kids if possible. 2 nites ago my husband threatened me saying he was going to punch my face in and give me a black eye. then today I found out he was cheating on me again. im just trying to get a plan together rite now...find someone to stay with..pray for me u guys. that GOD would give me the strength to leave and not come back this time.

[DawnAurora]

Praying for you. sounds like a cooling off period is in order, though we can't know enough to say more on an internet chat board! Do you have a local believer, or at least one that you can phone, to help you deal with this and think through the next steps?

[chatterbox4christ]

male believers yes female no

[Meadow]

I'm praying for you, your husband and children! i will pray that God makes a clear and safe path for you and your children however God leds. Trust in His will, God will see you thru this. I can relate to what you are going thru. Stay weak in His strength!

Breathe Him ~leigh
Proverbs 3:5-6
2 Corinthians 12:9-10

[CaraBear]

praying for you

[chatterbox4christ]

thanks for the prayers. im thinkn about staying. he said he was just joking about the whole thing.

[LauraA]

Would he consider counseling? Saying what he said is not a joke. Please be careful. Please. There are places that can help you. I'm praying for you. Seriously!

[Kelly]

I know I can't tell you what to do, but PLEASE get the help of SOMEONE in this! If what he said really was a joke, it's not the least bit funny! PLEASE be careful!!! Praying for you!

[chatterbox4christ]

im not sure on what to do anymore..im confused...I just got some christian godly wisdom from a good friend we just sat and talkd for the longest. it was needed...

[Kelly]

Well that's great to hear! I hope you and that person have a LOT more chances to talk & sort things out!

[Labby]

Has he been physically abusive in the past? Heck, has he been abusive at all, physically, emotionally, or verbally? If so, then what he said was not a joke -- he meant it, and he will carry out his threat.

I don't know enough about the situation to give much helpful advice, but I can say that marital counseling is in order. He needs to learn to be a man and get his anger issues under control (so we're clear: any guy who beats or threatens to beat a woman is not a man; they're just a male, not even an overgrown boy, as most boys I know wouldn't do that).

[CamperGirl]

Praying for you...trust in God and He will release all of the wisdom that you need in this time. I'm also praying that God will do a work in the heart of your husband- dispite the outcome of all this, it sounds like he needs Jesus to begin to transform his heart.

[chatterbox4christ]

he's not the husband I married..not the guy I fell in love with...its hard to leave someone when they're all you've ever known the past 5 years.

[LauraA]

I really understand how you are feeling. The fear, the uncertainty, the feelings of betrayal, resentment, unworthiness, and all that goes along with abuse and unfaithful spouses. Please, if you haven't yet read it, check out my testimony in Campfire. (The Path That Led Me to Him).

You have a hope and a future. The Lord has a plan for your life. Jeremiah 29:11

[DawnAurora]

Still praying for you.

[inthesilence27]

praying for you jess.. pm me if you need to talk:)

[drake71449]

no one is telling you to leave...divorce isnt right but if it comes down to it then you must but like its been said before you NeeD to see a pastor

take care will be praying for yall

:P

[chatterbox4christ]

thanks for the prayers. me and my husband are doing good once again...another trial another tribulation conquered. its as if nothing ever happened.

[drake71449]

you still need to talk to a pastor so that he can help lead yall thru scriptures that can help lessen the chances of another occurence!

but glad to hear things are better!

:p

[DawnAurora]

To be honest, Something did happen, and these things go in cycles. You and he still need counseling or it is likely to happen again.

[Convicted]

Might I suggest one major thing for you, which is this: Both of you get down on your knees and spend time truly praying together. I'm not certain of his relationship with God, but I certainly will be praying for him. A pastor of a church I used to go to once said, that before he counsels a martial couple (unless it's a really extreme situation) he suggests that they first-- take a week and sincerly pray with each other (which I believe a couple should consistently do, their entire lifetime together.). If they still have consistent, aggresive, and occuring problems after that, then he will counsel them. I actually think, that is the best counseling advice he can give a couple--- since it teaches the couple how to successfully work through their problems together-- going directly to the ultimate problem solver in the beginning. Needless to say, counseling is very helpful, since you receive insight from a third party-- a negotiator of sorts-- and hopefully someone who truly has and is exercising the discernment of the Lord. Both prayer and counseling would be extremely helpful for you guys. But I will be praying for both of you and your marriage.

[chatterbox4christ]

thanks so much..I have already thought about doing that. yesterday we got into another huge argument. I told him I wasn't apologizing that time because a I didn't do anything wrong and b why apologize when next week we will be arguing about the same things?