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Kelly
07-12-2009, 12:03 PM
At our church we have two services...traditional and contemporary. I've been going to the contemporary for a while now (off and on for the past several years, and regularly since this past February). I LOVE the pastor for the contemporary service. He just has the most incredible way of challenging you to think about your relationship with God and your purpose in the world. He and his wife (who is our worship leader) went on vacation for the last month. Today was their first day back and I was SO pumped to get back and hear what he had to say. I roll into Bible study this morning & he comes in right behind me. We're all chatting like normal and he's telling us about their trip. Then as soon as the room fills up, he announces that they are resigning :(

It took everything in me not to break down all morning...through Bible study as we sat there and talked about it and prayed about it for the entire hour...to the church service where our lead pastor came and announced that his resignation had formally been accepted....to after church when everyone was going up and giving him hugs and I couldn't even bear to look at him, much less go near him without losing it!

A lot of what we talked about during our Bible study hour is how he hopes that we're not just there because of him and that we will continue to grow as a church. But the sad thing is, he IS the reason I decided to join. Of course he's not the only one. But he's the one up there every Sunday, imparting his wisdom on us so that we can draw closer to God. None of the other pastors there have the same effect as he does. And the one pastor who, I hate to admit it, doesn't do much for me...is the one who will be taking over when our pastor leaves. That's the hardest pill for me to swallow. It's like they are two completely separate styles. One pastor is totally laid-back in his personality but in-your-face in his teaching, and he's hung out at our house on several occasions. The other pastor is way too methodical and by-the-book in his teaching and not very personable. Not that he's not a nice person. Just that he's not very open and easy to converse with. It's very hard for me to accept that this will be the person leading us. I feel awful for saying that, but it's true. I'm really struggling to open my mind to the idea that he might enlighten me more than I realize. I hope and pray that I'm wrong and that I'm eventually able to do so!

So much prayer is needed in all this though! Prayer for our church, prayer for our contemporary service, and prayer for me personally. We all just need some divine guidance right now!

His last day will be August 30th so we still have some time. It's just hard knowing that each week we'll be one step closer to him leaving.

DawnAurora
07-12-2009, 05:42 PM
Bummer! But life does go on. Can you give him a chance for a couple months? Can you also (as a group, even?) meet with the senior pastor and explain your concern about how his traditional style will fit with the expectations of a contemporary service?

It's always hard when someone 'perfect' leaves and someone who isn't a really good fit takes their place. Frankly, many good servants are made, not born, myself being one of them. If it weren't for on the job training I think the Lord would hardly have anyone to use!

revelation21ready
07-13-2009, 11:11 AM
I'm sorry this has happened to you..I will pray for your situation and your service...maybe Gods asking you to step up to the plate and take more of a leadership role now either in the contemporary service or to make the other service more half/half....traditional..contemporary....May God be with you now..

Psalms23
07-13-2009, 11:54 AM
I am sorry to hear that. Just remember that God has bigger and better plans and that everything happens for a reason.

LauraA
07-13-2009, 12:05 PM
Awwww, Kelly! I feel for you. The pastor can really set the mood of a service, and can affect the way you feel about attending. I totally understand. If my pastor left, I would be the same way.

I'm sure the shock of this change will wear off, and eventually you will feel a little better about it. And the new pastor can grow on you, so to speak. At least I pray that happens.

Hugs! Hang in there. The Lord will direct your path and you'll be blessed.

CherryCokeGrl
07-13-2009, 01:15 PM
Praying for you & your church.

thisismethisiswhoiam
07-13-2009, 01:41 PM
kelly ive been in the same shoes you are in, except there is one small difference. when i was in the 6th grade, 13 years ago, man im starting to make myself sound old, i was attending a private school where it was legal to mention the name of Jesus at. thats where i met reggie mcallister. he was the greatest man of God i knew since the pastor i had that led me to Christ. i loved this guy. it was one sunday morning, i have no idea how he knew where i lived, but he came by my house, knocked on my door and asked if i was at home. my mom answered the door and said yes i was there and i was watching tv. he looked at me and told me to get in his car we were going to church. i was out of church for 2 and a half years at this time and was the furtherest away from God ive ever been. when he came by, i knew he was sincere and that he was there for me and for the youth/teens of luverne alabama. every time we had a youth function, whether it was going to a jars of clay concert, to cosmic bowling, to a movie, if i didnt have money to go, and he knew i wanted to go, this man paid for it. when i started my 8th grade year, he first told the youth before he told the pastor that he was stepping down and moving to ariton which was about 2 hours from luverne. it broke my heart completely. i never had somebody in my life who cared about me personally and cared for me spiritually in my life. reggie was a very special man to me and i love him dearly. ive seen reggie since then, ive even when and spoke to his youth a couple of times, but ill never forget the impact he mad on my life those 2 years and getting me back in church. those kinds of people only come once in a while. the best advice i can give you is cherish every minute you can with this guy and let him know exactly how much he means to you. i was dumb and didnt get to do that with reggie even though he knew.

Kelly
07-13-2009, 01:54 PM
First of all, if you think that makes you sound old, I was in 6th grade 16 years ago! :p Who's the oldie now? ;) Thanks for sharing. Maybe this pastor was just my "Reggie". Maybe his purpose in my life was just to give me that kick back into the church :) I mean, obviously he wasn't going to be my pastor forever. I don't even know if I'll be at that church for the rest of my life...no telling where your life will take you tomorrow right? So I just have to trust that it's all in God's hands :)

confused
07-13-2009, 02:10 PM
oh wowsa, i SO know what you're going through.
several years ago a minister left my church, and it was as though the bottom fell out from under me.
then his replacement came, and i developed an spiritual attachment to him, and then once again, he left.

So I can really empathize with how you feel.

Though in regards to church, I DO feel it's important to be "where you being fed" so to speak, I would pray God opens your heart for what this other pastor could bring you.
It could be amazing.


I definitely know your pain, and I will pray for you in this transition.

thisismethisiswhoiam
07-13-2009, 02:17 PM
just remember this kelly, when God pulls one out of your life he always puts somebody in your life to replace that person. the person who replaced reggie was dale brown, when i left alabama, the person that replaced dale was jeff klepper, who is my spiritual guide now who is not my pastor, who will it be when its time for me and jeff to split, i dont know. but each time God pulls someone out of my life, they were always replaced. not right away, but he was always replaced.