confused
11-05-2009, 05:17 PM
So I don't how to word this, and it will probably only make me out to sound very nosey and judgmental, but I'm peeved and wanted to ask what you guys thought and whether I was overreacting or not (I admit that I probably am... )
As a Christian, I have a curiosity to know what others believe and why, and how they act out that faith... especially when it comes to stuff people don't normally (want to) talk about. I pull no punches, and I'm not afraid to ask (or be asked) tough stuff.
A few days ago, I emailed a guy I respect alot (also a Christian) and was talking to him about this very thing. The idea of premarital sex came up. In and of itself, not a bad topic, right? I only asked him two things:
1: Did he think it was right
2: Did he and his wife wait until they were married
He wrote me back almost immediately and went on and on about how he didn't think it was right to have sex before marriage and how he thought God didn't want us too, etc.... again, really good stuff.
But that was it. He never answered the question about himself and his wife. And for some reason it really, really bugged me.
Either he had or he hasn't.
If he hadn't why wouldn't you just say it? It's a plus on your character, right?
But if you have, I think it's your responsibility to admit it. I think it's one of the consequences of sin... having to be accountable for it and having to tell people if they ask.
I don't know, it just bothered me that he totally ignored that part.
Its like, if you tell me drugs are bad and I shouldn't do them, but then I find out you do drugs everyday, how is that suppose to make me feel???
I'm not a "do as i say, not as i do" person.
Basically just venting. thanks for letting me.
As a Christian, I have a curiosity to know what others believe and why, and how they act out that faith... especially when it comes to stuff people don't normally (want to) talk about. I pull no punches, and I'm not afraid to ask (or be asked) tough stuff.
A few days ago, I emailed a guy I respect alot (also a Christian) and was talking to him about this very thing. The idea of premarital sex came up. In and of itself, not a bad topic, right? I only asked him two things:
1: Did he think it was right
2: Did he and his wife wait until they were married
He wrote me back almost immediately and went on and on about how he didn't think it was right to have sex before marriage and how he thought God didn't want us too, etc.... again, really good stuff.
But that was it. He never answered the question about himself and his wife. And for some reason it really, really bugged me.
Either he had or he hasn't.
If he hadn't why wouldn't you just say it? It's a plus on your character, right?
But if you have, I think it's your responsibility to admit it. I think it's one of the consequences of sin... having to be accountable for it and having to tell people if they ask.
I don't know, it just bothered me that he totally ignored that part.
Its like, if you tell me drugs are bad and I shouldn't do them, but then I find out you do drugs everyday, how is that suppose to make me feel???
I'm not a "do as i say, not as i do" person.
Basically just venting. thanks for letting me.