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Outcast
06-10-2008, 11:21 PM
hey guys!
Some definite praises for this week. A friend of a friend came up from Mobile Alabama and she has been helping me get around as i dont have much gas funds now to DEFACS and other places like the Social security Administration. Got me some used clothes at goodwill to help me "dress for success" and even a haircut and a surprisingly first time eyebrow job...most painful thing i ever felt in my life and i have had 14 corrective surgeries for my feet and legs..so i know pain:D Darlene is kind of the jump in and help people type person...heart of gold...but also is the "take over" kind of person. I am thankful to god for her friendship and the blessings she has given me the past few days. I now have food stamps coming to me because she knew the right and faster channels to go through. The prayer need: I am about to make her very angry. She is adament and all gung-ho about me getting on SSI and Disability...to the point of what i think and say are becoming a tiny, still small voice. hard to get help from the Georgia Housing Authority if you are not on it, or at least that is what she says. I am having to gently but firmly ask her to let me go back into the offices of these various oraganizations alone. i consider myself an adult at 39 year old wheelchair/limited mobility or not...and well, this is still my private business. She seemed kind of stunned but agreed when i gently asked her to let me go through the rest of the meetings at DEFACS alone...But well, I am looking at the disability/ssi benefits application online and it doesnt feel right for me. With Yes/No questions like "Do you forsee not being able to work due to your disability for at least 12 months?" "When did you become disabled and unable to work?, etc etc. i feel like it is just the first steps to giving up in life...Why is it that a normal person becomes unemployed and goes through a hard time and peopel and churches help out and he or she is helped to get a job and then all is OK...but let someone in a wheelchair who has worked 40-60 hour weeks for the past 3 years gets terminated and suddenly disability and money from the government is all people can visualize for this person? My friend promised we would ge tto the labor dept and get my benefits back somehow...and that we would job hunt...but somehow that got lost and forgotten. Now she talks of me getting disability and working 15-20 hours a week...or maybe even getting a volunteer job so I can feel "productive" still. And now she talks of a motorized scooter i can get for free if i get on medicaid...i like using my legs still when i use the chair...and like being able to get up limited distances to walk solo and with the walker. I want to wait on the social security and disability and try to job hunt full time and get my life back as i know it:) i havent had a real chance to try or suceed since "the strings of my unemployment benefits parachute got cut". i also learn recently that she and my friend Ty have undefined feelings for each other for almost 8 years. He is very country and stubborn. Been yelling and me and arguing disability since i got fired from Lason...putting down my job efforts and calling it "dead end". telling me to quit being prideful and trying to argue and let peopel try to help me and do like they tell me. i fear as she has expressed to me many a time that she wants him to "like her for more than a friend" that she will be to fast to agree with his point of view. I dont feel very beleived in right now...i want more than "material help/support from them"...Anyway, I have the hard thing to tell her tomorrow that I want to wait on all the disability stuff and i want to use the time she is offering me to hit a few more job agencies and places and job hunt. So, needing prayer because both she and my friend are gonna hit the roof...

Outcast
06-11-2008, 11:16 AM
Well, I just broke the news by phone...friend was strangely silent...like that trying to remain "composure" kind of silence...as i told why i felt the way i did about things and expressed that i would much rather use the time to job hunt and check into the Georgia Housing authority rather than waste time on chasing disability and social secutiry around as it will take more personal work on my end to gather long lost medical documentation, etc etc...a paper chase basically:) I express that i felt we hadnt been able to tend to the job hunt the way we had discuseed earlier before everything began and that i wanted to do that today...nothing else. And said honestly that i wanted to pray about the disability application and such as some of those questions were troubling my heart...and expressed that i wanted some time to do so and reflect. Meltdown is imminent...so pray for me to stand strong...while using a walker for limited disatnces and a wheelchair for longer hauls:)

LauraA
06-11-2008, 11:52 AM
Praying for you, Jeff. I think what you are doing is the right thing, and if you are able to work, why go on disability, wheelchair or not? Have you expressed to her that you are feeling this way? I'm glad you were able to tell her what your intentions are as far as job hunting goes. It's nice she is helping you.

CherryCokeGrl
06-11-2008, 01:19 PM
Praying for your situation. I think you did the right thing. Hopefully your friends will understand and support you.

Outcast
06-11-2008, 01:48 PM
Well, it's 2:34PM here and she doesnt seem to be returning my calls from my friend's house where she is staying and she hasnt come by around lunchtime like she said...i hope this whole thing of the "make-over" and "lunches" hasn't just been a fun way to lull me into cooperation to get me to do what they wanted me to do all along...you know like bribery:confused:

LauraA
06-11-2008, 03:12 PM
Let us know what happens. I'm praying for you now.

Laura